The word “compelling” means that it draws you in and inspires you to a reaction that you would not otherwise have. The only compulsion inspired by the misuse of the word is to make the invite go away as quickly as possible.

As an English teacher assigned to teach an oral skills class at Santa Monica Community College, I found the textbook deadly dull, impractical, and quite expensive. Consequently, I developed 45 conversation lessons – beginning with relevant vocabulary and provocative questions – and added 10-12 quotations from numerous perspectives. The classroom atmosphere became engaged and lively as we shared experiences, insights, and reflections.

Eventually, I compiled the lessons – and added more classroom activities, American idioms,and proverbs from around the world. And, as you’ve guessed, I chose the title “Compelling Conversations: Questions and Quotations on 45 Timeless Topics” that has annoyed you so much.

Many ESL teachers – in over 40 countries around the world – have purchased the book. Several English teachers, however, have also criticized the title since so many English language learners do not know the word “compelling”. Perhaps both you and these teachers are correct, but I still like it and believe that it accurately captures the spirit and content of my niche conversation book. Try it … you might like it.

Thank you, however, for warning me that the phrase has become a tad too common and